Space: “The final frontier”.
But I mean another kind of space. I mean Ma-ai.
Ma-ai is defined as space, distance, reach or interval. When I was beginning Aikido, my partner and I used to stretch out our arms in full extension and touch fingertip to fingertip. And that was that. Ma-ai was that simple. Then we would proceed to practice our strikes and tai-sabaki drills, stop when the teacher signaled to stop, measure fingertips then begin again. In our pairwork, the teacher would come around and remind us to be always aware of our safe distance, our Ma-ai.
In my trying to understand the concept and practice of Ma-ai, the elements of not only distance, but also speed, timing, and reach also came up. These elements define Ma-ai, but still, there is more to it than that. Because Ma-ai also expands and contracts. Because Ma-ai is also dependent on intuition for intent. Isn’t there Ma-ai in personal space in relation to safety too? What exactly, then, is Ma-ai?
Back to Basics
In Aikido, Ma-ai is the proper distance between you and training partner, that he has to take a step to complete the distance to be able to reach you. But now, I have come to realize that it is in fact, not as simple as the definition given to me many, many years ago.
Ma-ai is the interval between parties, the distance of engagement; in other traditional martial arts like kendo and karate, it is the spatial relationship between oneself and the opponent, and is usually classified into three kinds, dependent on the distance as the sole parameter for the time it would take for one to reach the other with his blade or strike:
• Tō-ma- the long interval or distance, where it would take you further and longer to reach your opponent,
• Itto-ma– the one step – one sword distance, where it would take just a step and a slash to reach your opponent, and;
• Chikama– the short distance, where you are already within each others space.
Ma-ai in Speed and Timing
Aside from physical distance, one’s Ma-ai is also dependent on the speed of each of the participants as well as how they time their movements. Sometimes, in my mind, I picture two equally skilled swordsmen in a frozen -in-time face off, each of them waiting for the right time and each equally hoping, he will be the faster. The faster and more well-timed his entry or attack, the more chances he will have of overcoming the other.
At other times, I also imagine a different scenario: Imagine yourself as a swordsman fighting a duel with another swordsman whom we know is younger, faster, and more skilled than you are. Doesn’t his Ma-ai seem bigger than yours?
Speed and Timing, and our understanding and capacity for it in relation to the attacker affects our Ma-ai as well.
Ma-ai Contracts and Expands
Ma-ai stretches, expands and contracts. This is dependent on the reach of the weapons we are holding and the capacity for speed and timing both parties have in a given martial encounter. When you are holding a sword and your partner is empty handed, both your personal space and reach are totally different.
The one holding a sword would have a longer reach, and the empty-handed one a shorter reach. Knowing this, both sides adjust so that each maintains a safe distance. As an application, in the case of a bat-wielding assailant and a sledge-hammer wielding opponent, their Ma-ai would also have to consider the heft and damage and speed with which they can wield their weapons. (I’m just playing around with scenarios in my head, I’ve never seen these two people in a real life face off.)
This concept also extends to the actual application of techniques. For example, in the engagement of a throwing technique in Aikido, we lead our partner to open up a space for us to enter. As we move, we already set them up for the throw. Here, we are actually using our understanding of how Ma-ai contracts and expands to our advantage. The awareness of its perimeters allows us to constantly keep ourselves almost within reach but just a hair out of reach, so that their intention to get to us is not broken. We use that intent to connect with them, leading them into the ideal situation for us to throw them.
When you have a great partner who understands this, you both enjoy the game of leading, setting up, trying to break out of the set up and afterwards, you both enjoy a good laugh. I love it when this happens!
Ma-ai and Intention
Ma-ai can also determined by how you understand intent. When you know you will be safe, your Ma-ai gets shorter. When you sense harmful intent, you keep a controlled and well monitored distance, preferably longer and further than the reach and speed of the other being in question.
So, you have family, who you know will always be there for you, love you, care for you. Your Ma-ai keeps them as close as you want them to be. You have work mates, they watch your back or stab you in the back, depending on your work relationship with them and you adjust your distance with them, too. You have the cat-calling strangers who stand on the corner, and you hold on to your mace and give them a wide berth.
Sensing Personal Space and Safety
In animal behavior and human psychology, the levels of how close a person can get to another person or being is dependent on how safe the other feels within the company of that person. That is Ma-ai, too. This is the concept of personal space. Have you ever been in a very crowded train? How did it feel being squeezed in with total strangers?
I remember in the classroom, one of my teachers managed our unruly class of young adolescent 14 year old girls through intimidation by proximity. If she even suspected something fishy, she would situate herself right beside the suspected perpetrator of mischief. It worked. She was a wonderful teacher because she excited our minds and made us want to learn more, yet also maintained discipline without breaking our spirit. This simple tactic is still being used everywhere. The police presence in the current neighborhood where I live now, is a reflection that Ma-ai in this form still works.
It does not seem positive to exert mental intimidation and use the role of fear to expand Ma-ai, but because it does happen, and it is being used, I guess, I have to consider it just to be fair. There are some areas where you are not allowed to enter due to safety reasons. Areas so heavily patrolled and secured that it makes you wonder, “what’s in there?”
There are people who have “levels of security clearances”, too. Some can enter restricted or intimate space, and others cannot. For safety reasons, of course. In a way, being able to isolate and distance these areas are ways Ma-ai is used to manage and restrict access.
In trying to look at maintaining distance, I too have to consider the emotional connection or disconnection of people.
There also exists “the me time”. you know, that time when you just want to be left alone. This usually happens when you are pondering some great question or enjoying a moment of precious solitude. This is important, too, and our life partners understand that sometimes, we just need to disconnect from the world and be alone with our thoughts, musings and day dreams. Or when I need to write about something, I like to be all alone. This, also is a part of Ma-ai, for me.
I have no capacity to become a veterinarian. The reason being, I would break every time I lose a patient. I admire the professionals and their nurturing and caring for the weak, the sick, and the disadvantaged. They have reached a level of maintaining a distance that would also protect them from breaking every time they lose a battle with disease, a patient, a charge.
Then, there are the naturally existing creatures who are just inherently wild. Wild things that will not be tamed would maintain a wider circle of awareness and guardedness than a pet. Here, too, is seeing an awareness of Ma-ai in action.
The way I understand it, Ma-ai is the sum total of all these elements so that we have a harmonious space to live in. But, even still, I do not think it is as simple as that. It is a good definition, but I found it wanting. There was that niggling feeling inside me, like a wriggling worm of a feeling that still there is more to Ma-ai. After much thinking and re-thinking about this concept, it finally dawned on me:
Perhaps, Ma-ai is a relationship.
Yes, it is basically simply stated as distance, but it is also affected by your relationship with the other, it is about you and about the other, your circumstances individually, together and toward each other. It is your connection as a whole.
In understanding Ma-ai as a relationship of people and space, when I roll this idea around in my head, practice maintaining Ma-ai with this in my heart, mind and soul- I feel at peace with it. Maybe, personally, this is the right definition of Ma-ai for me.
(Please also see: “Balance“)